plainoldsamvimes:

bananonbinary:

here’s another fun fact: asexual does not mean nonsexual.

asexuals’ relationship with sex and sexual attraction tends to be….complicated. there’s a bit of an idea of like, oh of course, you’re either sex-favorable, sex-neutral, or sex-repulsed, but honestly i see a LOT of discussion about how wildly different those can each look for each individual. some people are comfortable with some acts in very specific contexts, and deeply upset by them in all others. some people find certain forms of nonsexual intimacy (like kissing) to still be off-limits, while something most people might consider more charged (like nudity) is totally fine. a lot of us just kind of have a long laundry list like “this is fine, this isn’t, that one’s okay, that one’s always off-limits….” because the big secret is that “sex” isn’t really any cohesive act as much as a lot of little things that people just threw together and called one thing.

as for attraction: some aces are actually attracted to other people once in a blue moon, and simply don’t want to clarify that every time. some aren’t entirely sure, but don’t want to spend their whole lives guessing. some ARE completely sure they never have and never will feel an attraction.

at the end of the day, much like any label, this single word really doesn’t tell you much of anything about what a person is actually like unless you bother to ask them what it means to them.

This is also part of why (for many) it’s so hard to figure out that you *are* ace in the first place. It seems so complicated that between that & teenage hormones it can take a while to sort out even if you are aware of the possibility.

dontmeantobepoliticalbut:

Two Headlines, a day apart

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jethroq:

rnorningstars:

I really believe there’s some sort of “emperor’s new clothes” phenomenon happening with Gen Z discoursers where they’re too afraid to question the logic of some of the discourse being thrown at them for fear of appearing to be unwoke so they just blindly parrot it not to be excluded by their peers

not just a Gen Z thing, like that’s a valid criticism of tumblr few years back, and I’m not ashamed to admit it sucked me in too. people can say whatever shit they want as long as they use the right vocabulary and an agressive tone that just implies that disagreement is out of the question. it sinks in because you will get similar messages about legitimate issues and sometimes from the same people.

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comradenausicaa:

cisphobiccommunistopinions:

jakemorph:

This is the best AITA because on the actual matter at hand I’d say he’s kinda right (ish), $4900 for a week of work is really good money and they can always celebrate later. He should have obviously talked it over with her first but still. What makes him an asshole (or just like, a really really weird person) is every other detail that is tangentially mentioned.

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jessalrynn:

funnytwittertweets:

Your son is a genius.

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roach-works:

algorizmi:

crypticarchivist:

chefpyro:

Frankly I would’ve transitioned a decade ago if I knew estrogen was this potent or that my body would be this receptive to it. I didn’t think it’d be enough, so I didn’t bother looking into it.

Which is a reason trans representation is really important in my opinion.

Just think of how many of those statistics on trans people are skewed because they all have a warped perception on what transitioning actually does to the body and how it works so they are hesitant to go through with it.

Legit through most of highschool I was fully convinced that transitioning was a fully surgical thing. I DIDN’T EVEN KNOW THAT HRT EXISTED.

Spread awareness people.

I waited because of concerns from studies on long-term health effects that were decades out of date and based on premarin. Turns out with current approaches life expectancy is actually several years longer on HRT.

as far back as fourteen, i thought, ‘oh, i wish i could just magically be male, but if i dressed up as a boy i would just be stuck as some shrimpy pathetic twelve year old forever…. i’d rather be a grown woman than a forever boy. oh well.’

going on T makes you more masculine than you can imagine, beforehand. i don’t look like a child, i don’t look pathetic or childish, i look like the grown adult man that i actually wanted to be.

it’s great.

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